Love is verb, right understanding is unconditional love, how to get the right understanding?

Love is a verb, right understanding is unconditional love, how to get the right understanding?

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Love is the action. It means when you love someone. You should put heart in the action you do for your lovers. Love is serving with heart. We have to learn the love of Jesus, Buddha and Mother Teresa. They have real love; they love people without any expectation, which called the unconditional love. When a man loves a woman, he has love in all actions like serving, caring, flirting, making the surprise, helping, motivating, sharing, respecting. Real love no need of return.

Mother Teresa did not demand anything when helping the one needed help. From caring, helping she gained the greatest joy and happiness than any bodies else. With love, everything was the marvel to her; she found joy and happiness in everything, the power of love so great that she created the greatest legacy with little resources. Love is action, a man in love find joy and happiness in any actions they do for their lover. He finds happiness in responsibility also. We can easily imagine a man in happiness in every action, he is dancing, jumping, smiling, cheering, singing, walking and opening all. The individual in love never thinks of doing any harm to the lover. The observer can easily see the pattern of happiness in the action of a man in love. Mother loves her child unconditionally; she can sacrifice her life to save her child in danger. Her love is immeasurable. A girl does not need to see ask advice to know if he loves her, just finding is the happiness in him when staying with you, when do with you. He is controlled by the highest emotion so that he can do many silly things. If he loves you, play with you with too much consciousness, perhaps he does not love you enough.

If people in love but expect in return: “I serve her, I care for her, I give her flower. In return, I want her to do good to me. She does not do good to me, it makes me a little bit sad.” Hold on, she does not do good back to you, and you said. You see, love with expecting is like exchanging. It is not loved. Expecting can kill your love. With expectation, you do thing consciously, you are pulling out of a moment of action to the expectation. It makes the action unnaturally. If you receive less than expectation, you can become angry, you can harm her.

The fact is, love with expectation mean "I love myself" not “I love her”. It is a selfish love, greedy love. People misunderstand that they love themselves but they think they love others. Sometimes they think they do good action in love as a sacrifice. The greedy love can hurt for both. Love that is still clinging, giving but still looking forward to receiving, waiting for returning is the love of selfish person; it is not generous love to other, but the selfish love for themselves. The selfish love makes people feel pain or hard in the action. When making the action of love instead of finding happiness as the unconditional love, they find pain, hard work or even misery. It looks like an exchanging in the relationship. With unconditional love or real love, people find happiness, joy and energy in action for both doer and receiver. On the other hand, with selfish love, to some extent, people find misery, pain and exhausted in action. Selfish love can create misery or stress for both people. So that if a girl read any signs caused by happiness chemical from a man when he thinks or dates with her, it means he likes or loves her; because he is doing the things that he loves the most. The belief deep inside harmony with the outside action to create the action, he finds happiness. If a girl can find any signs of stress chemical from a man when he is dating or doing kind work to her, it means that he finds stress in action, deep belief inside contradict with outside activities. He has to use conscious mind alone to take action, it is exhausted, overworked, some time can make him stress. The experienced people can see the pretending smile from him, or have the gut feelings when hearing he laughs.

People tell lies to have the stress signal also. Observe ordinary people telling lies, we can find the embarrassing behaviors in them. The unconscious mind detects the mind bad consequences from the lying, so it creates the signal of a little stress. People telling lie do not have eye contact, do not see direct eye to eye, the pupil shrinks, tension muscle, up the heartbeat, sweating and many other symptoms of stress, so that the words are not naturally. The degree of symptoms stress may vary a lot from people to people. The experienced individual can have the feeling of chill or gut feeling if he sees a man telling lies, which may lead to serious consequences, without any stress signal on the face, voice or gestures and without the signal of emotion. The experienced man will pay special attention to him.

Parents also need unconditional love for their children. The conditional love express: “parents love you so you need to do this”, and “parents love you so you need to do that to make parents happy.” to make your parents happy; otherwise, children will be fined, beaten, burned books, torn clothes if the children do not obey the order of parents and adults. Look closely, they are invisible braces that splint the arms and legs of their children. Selfish parents make children eat, work and study without any passion, no curiosity, and no excitement. They just follow the instructions of adults. Kids are like the puppets of their parents; parents use love, orders, rewards, punishments, and emotion to control the puppets. Sadly, in Vietnam, the kids have many splints from their adults like grandparents, parents, brothers, sisters, friends, and teachers; who are so blindly violating the basic need of freedom of the kids; the need of freedom they forget that they also ask for and complain all day at work, clubs, and in society because of lacking freedom.

 We use love as splints to splint the two legs, the two hands and the behaviors of our children unconsciously. Interfere the kids' behaviors by their parents may create passive children; because parents dictate the children what to do and what not to do because of their love; kids rarely make anything by themselves so that they are very self-deprecatory, low self-esteem. Kids never have a sense of conquest, of victory to proud of, they get everything done by their parents. The blind love of parents take all the chance for hands, legs, eyes, ears, and head to do its job; parents repeatedly serving for their children to satisfy unwanted needs of their children; they unconsciously spoilt their children. Kids grow up in the environment where everything is ready-made by parents not only lack the skills but also have much more wants, desires than normal kids. When the desires are not satisfied, kids become angry with screaming, shouting, rebelling to ask for things they want. Time after time, parents with selfish love blindly create the bad habits of their kid's many desires, anger, and ignorance; these are the causes of misery.

Lao Tzu taught "instructions without interference". We as parents should draw out the destinations, expectations, visions, with the principle and values, then use love and patience to encourage our children and let them do their own. Our love and support are good enough for the kids to feel safe to take more challenge in life. Our children will surprise us with their creativity and ingenuity. The temperaments like self-confidence, self-esteem, self-reliance, initiative and proud of victory created by the process of working. Do not love your children so blindly that make tired, harmful to children and related individuals.

Stephen Covey taught about how to heal the relationship in the family for a husband: "love her" "But I do not love her anymore" "Dear friend, you are wrong, love is a verb; love is action, not emotion. People are in love have passionate action for the one they love". “so if you have to love her to heal relationship, you have to take numerous action to care for her: making her surprised, taking care of her, picking her up, dating with her, taking care the children for her, helping her the housework. Many think you can do if you really want to relive the love. Do it unconditionally.”

With children having problems need the unconditional love from their parents the most to repair the problems inside. They are need guiding without interfering with their parents when they have done the work, they feel proud and confident from the inside. The children having the problem already have the problem so that parents should not expect too much from them. The unsatisfied expectation can make parents anger and hurt, which in return will hurt the children. Love your kids without condition; welcome all the good things and bad things to your children, celebrate with them, guiding without interfering, give support to make kids feel safe enough to take more action, to make changes and corrections if needed. Especially the children with a mental problem, who are in stress, need so much love, connection and support from parents to have the feeling of happiness. The happiness and the chemical of happiness secreting in the brain and body is the best cure for mental problems. When taking action of love, practice three things: simplicity, patience, and compassion.

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Lifelong learning from: Looking, Watching and Contemplating

Lifelong learning from Looking, Watching and Contemplating

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1.       Watching a strong girl screaming and running away when seeing a cockroach, I understand the power of character and the weakness of knowledge and intelligence.

2.       Watching a healthy fainted when seeing someone is bleeding, I understand the power of things in his mind and the weakness of the strong muscles and assumed intelligence.

3.       Watching a young, healthy man running away and left his friend behind when seeing the danger, I understand the power of characters is more important than the power of muscle and power of knowledge.

4.       Watching a small dog bravely attack bigger dog to protect his owner, I understand the obsessed desires, and brave is more important than strong muscle and big muscles.

5.       Understanding the fears, roots of fears, the drives, habits, and behaviors make me understand deeper about human beings, and the hidden of a powerful mind.

6.       Watching a well-known manager scolding his staffs then taking home the properties of the company when no one saw, I understand the importance of characters, virtues, and compassionate mind than ever before.

7.       Watching a rich man wearing many luxury things, like praising, boasting then angrily scolding his staffs for a small error, I understand the power of character, intelligence, wealthy, healthy, and contentment.

8.       Watching many handsome intelligent men misery because of losing money in gambling still try to find a way to play gambling, I understand what is the most important to a man. 

9. Watching a successful manager like to accumulating, possessing, taking, making big profit and celebrating, then taking drugs at home for sleep, quiet mind, and at ease, I understand what is the deeper needs of mind of beings and what is the real hunger of the rich.

10.    Watching the joy of children play in nature, with natural objects: carrot, potato, flower, sand, rock, earth, tree, grass and fruit; and natural creatures: fish, chicken, dog, cat, duck, and so on. Then watching they play indifferently with plastic objects, emotionlessly playing in artificial environment, artificial flower, bored with playing with intelligent robots, intelligent robot shaped dog. I understand the vitality, sophistication of nature that human beings only understand very little. Children may jump, sing, dance, and smile with dog, cat, and duck in water but they may never do that with the intelligent robots with dog-shaped, cat-shaped, and duck-shaped in luxury car, or shinning castle. We need to understand more our children’s deepest needs. We need to understand the hunger of the children in wealthy and prosperous.

11.     Watching the science document films, I understand that the most sophisticated technology and printing can only print the object shaped orange; they can never print out the real orange had the same in countless varieties for our children to eat. To have a real orange as soon as possible, scientists only have to figure out the way to speed up the process of making fruit of orange trees. They will take a long time to understand what is nature really is let alone creating an apple had the same characters of the real apple? Not understanding, how they can create? At least, they can create an object that all sense of people cannot recognize the differences by all human senses; they cannot create the same object.

12.    Living, studying, sleeping, working, and walking in the artificial boxes cuts all chances for people to get connection with mysterious nature. They will be out of balance then creating more out of balance. This finding make me awake with the problem of our society

13.    Watching the tribes in the Amazon jungle, I think of the living of modern human ancestors. To have modern human beings as we are today, our ancestors have to study, do, think and create need changes inside out to adapt well with the slowly changes of nature. Too much and to fast changes of nature means too big the problems, too much pressure can destroy the whole tribes, communities and nations. So the needed temperate changes, temperate pressures have pushed our ancestors to study, do, think, create and invent. In other world, the needed temperate changes in nature and society have made human ancestors evolved to have strength, abilities and power to live well. This is true for all of us: infants, kids, students, adults, employees, and the old also.

14.    Watching a lot of successful men, women, well-fed children and who have a high standard of living have to take a lot of medications, sedative medications, and painkiller medication to have temporary at easy and good feelings. Some of them even taking drugs, committing crimes, and committing suicide, I awake with what are really the hunger of modern people, the power of characters, ability, understanding and the real lacking of modern society. I understand the root of our society’s problems: greed, anger and ignorance, and lack of characters.

15.    Watching a successful father angrily scolding and crucially beating his children even they are screaming, crying and saying sorry so many times. Then the father turned back to the wife shouting that he has to sacrifice all his time, money, energy, and even his life for his children but they do not obey his advice, do not know his sacrificing and his suffering. I understand that the characters like love, compassion, talking for understanding, kind heart, open-minded and mastering the art of using golden rules are much more important than IQ, intelligence, wealth and powerful muscles.
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16.    Reading human history, human wars, I understand that pace of nature, the laws of life and the paradoxes of life that scientists hardly to put on the mathematic equation. History is not made by the enforcement of power but make by the virtues, characters of great men. When one society lacked virtues and goodness, chaos and witty start to dominate society until there are men with virtues, characters, and understanding taking responsibility to make changes.

17.    Looking at large crowd and many people in the society hysterically running and screaming, blaming then getting ill, I understand the power of the mind and the destruction of not understanding.

18.    Reading the autobiographies of great men, leaders and billionaires described since they were the babies, toddlers, youths and adults, many incidents have impacted their life. Then they train the mind and well governed the mind, they, the weak ordinary people, have made the changes and advancements in society. None of the great men said their success and understanding comes from their intelligence. They all value the persistence and characters.

19.    Reading the list of life of billionaires, the autography of most influential people, a great president, and their education, I understand the useless value of formal education, the useless value of boasting degrees, and boasting certification. I am awakened by the value of lifelong learning, persistence, and humility. I understand intelligence, IQ or degree to some extent reflex the abilities, values, and virtues of integrity men: “as within so without”. But with cheating men, they are the good tools to cover all their defects and weakness inside. Some bad men even like to accumulate degree and boast about it to make them temporary satisfy their needs and their greed. Do not listen to the sounding words, just close the eyes and feel the attitude, love, compassion, purposes, the pattern of speech, listen to greedy words, selfish words, you will not be cheated by them. They may be the slave of passions and sensual desires. They build thick covers, sounding words, sounding certificates, and aggressive strong emotions to hide and compensate the weaknesses inside. Never taste the real happiness because of discontentment they constantly accumulate kinds of stuff to create thick, heavy, flashy and catchy covers. “Excessive outer to cover the weakness inside”. All their words will reveal their weakness. In and out are not the same, they start the process of imbalance. Sensitive mind and sensitive brain will silently suffer the imbalance that people do not know if they do not mindful. Then the imbalanced mind will silently control the people to create countless bad cause for them, relatives and all other people described in the law of cause and effect.

20.    The brain, with the weakest, soft, fragile nerve cells in the world, is the softest thing that controls the hardest cells, strongest cells, and whole body’s organ. When brain and cells become much stiffer, and much more rigid, the process of self-destruction will begin. This maybe is the hidden paradoxes pattern of evolution of materials in the universe.

21.    The changes in society are not from the power and intelligence of royal members, but from the characters and virtues of ordinary, weak men: Benjamin Franklin, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Socrates, and so on

Observing, watching all phenomena around make me understand that things are interdependent, inter-being, one in all and all in one, this because of that and that because of this. There is no separate self and separate being. Then I awaken that human beings are falling apart from their essence, virtues, and goodness.

Our children may become the victims and creators of the misery of lust, hatred and ignorance. Because of the blind love of parents, ignorant parents support to satisfy the needs of their children quickly and unconditionally. After many time of quick satisfaction, the children become obsessed with happy feelings, they want to have more of happy feelings without putting any efforts. Gradually, they become the greedy children. Because of greed and unsatisfying the greed, they may constantly fall into stress. They may become the victims of stress chemicals, the victims of living condition. To remove the greed and hatred, children need to study more, train more and practice more to gain the knowledge and essential skills. Knowledge can help children stay away from the traps of delusion and ignorance. With knowledge, skills, and patience, children can control the needs, can control the anger and control the behaviors to move forwards noble goals. Children can create joy and happiness for themselves by their ability like characters, skills, and patience. Unfortunately, to gain knowledge, patience and essential skills gained from the hard labors like studying, training and practicing is quite hard and painful at first. Some parents love their children so blindly that they cannot stand seeing their children suffering pain in first working so that they interfere or jump in to help their children. Parents may accidentally take all chances for their children to gain and develop essential skills, knowledge, patience and strong characters. Children with greed, hatred, and ignorance; and without knowledge, patience, and essential skills may be suffering endless pain and stress in their later life. To some extent, the bad characters and the disadvantages of parents may be inherited by their children.
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Phương pháp giảm đau kinh tế, hiệu quả: đau bụng kinh, đau đầu, đau do căng cơ

Real cures for pain

Các bạn hay bị đau đầu,đau cơ, đau bụng, đau bụng kinh.

Một phần của nguyên nhân đau đó.- Đau do tăng co thắt: đau bụng kinh, đau bụng do hệ tiêu hóa, hệ tiết niệu.

- Đau do căng cơ: nằm sai tư thế gây đau do căng cơ, đau đầu do căng cơ: cơ cổ và cơ vai gáy có thể gây đau diện rộng trên đầu. Căng cơ thái dương gây đau đầu vùng thái dương, trán. 

Thường khi đau vùng thái dương ta hay dán cao, xoa, day xung quanh thái dương, mục đích giảm căng cơ.

Với những cơn đau kiểu này sẽ rất hiệu quả khi ta thư giãn, mát xa hay xoa bóp.

-  Chuột rút là một kiểu căng cơ mạnh do thiếu khoáng chất. 

Bác sĩ hay kê những thuốc giảm đau: 

+ Paracetamol, NSAID, 

+ và một số thuốc giảm có thắt, căng cơ: nospa, buscopan cho đau bụng, tiêu hóa;

+ Coltramyl, decontractyl và một số thuốc giảm đau khác.

chườm nóng, matxa có tác dụng tốt với đau do căng cơ.

Không chườm nóng với trường hợp đau bụng kinh, đặc biệt là mấy ngày đầu của ngày kinh. Chườm nóng có thể làm giãn mạch, chảy máu mạnh hơn. Thường chị em đến kỳ kinh hay đau bụng là bình thường. 

Nếu khó chịu thì có thể uống giảm đau paracetamol hoặc giảm đau NSAID khác, 

Có thể uống giảm co thắt kiểu Nospa, buscopan nữa.  

Hữu hiệu nhất là bạn gái nên bổ sung Mange B6 và vitamin 3B đều đều trong một thời gian dài. 

Magne giúp giãn cơ tự nhiên, là ion trong một số enzym, là  kim loại chất phổ biến trong cơ thể. Nên bổ sung lâu dài sẽ khá an toàn; giúp giảm những cơn đau do co thắt, căng cơ, và cả giảm đau đầu do căng cơ nữa.

Vitamin B1, B6, B12 là những vitamin tốt cho chuyển hóa, tốt cho các liên kết thần kinh. Có những trường hợp đau nặng, nhiều mà không rõ nguyên nhân. Các phòng khám ngày trước hay khuyên tiêm H5, thực ra thuốc H5 là thuốc chứa 3 vitamin B1, B6, B12. Vitamin này tan trong nước nên nếu thừa có thể được thải qua nước tiểu. Lưu ý chống chỉ định của thuốc khi dùng. 

Magne và canxi là chất bổ sung quan trọng trong đau do chuột rút. Phụ nữ mang thai hay bị chuột rút do thiếu Canxi là chủ yếu.

Để ý chế độ ăn. 

Nếu thiếu sắt có thể tự bổ sung vài ngày trong kỳ kinh.

Nên chọn bổ sung thuốc bổ. Hạn chế chọn thực phẩm chức năng vì những lý do sau.

- Chọn sản phẩm đăng ký là thuốc, là thuốc bổ. Thuốc bổ có số đăng ký VN, là thuốc phải chứng minh tác dụng dược lý, không kê đơn do có tính an toàn cao. Và được Bộ Y Tế đảm bảo về chất lượng và giám sát giá.

- Thực phẩm chức năng ( Supplement food) thực ra là thực phẩm, có tác dụng do có các thành phần rau, củ, quả và chất chiết xuất bên trong. Không có tác dụng thay thế thuốc chữa bệnh. Không bị giám sát nghiêm ngặt về thành phần bởi bộ y tế như thuốc, không bị quản lý nghiêm về giá. Không cần chứng minh tác dụng như quảng cáo cho cơ quan có thẩm quyền. Được quảng cáo thoải mái miễn là các thành phần trong đó có tác dụng như quảng cáo.

Ví dụ: viên thực phẩm chức năng mà có Magie, Rau diếp cá, dầu gan cá, Vitamin C; có thể quảng cáo như thần dược với tác dụng: Giảm táo bón, giảm đau, tốt cho hệ tiêu hóa ( do Magie và Rau diếp cá)

Có tác dụng giúp sáng mắt ( từ dầu gan cá)

Vô số tác dụng khác từ Vitamin C.

Cảm giác như thần dược, quảng cáo như thần dược để lấy giá cao; và thành phần hoạt chất có tác dụng mạnh thêm vào phải ở nồng độ thấp, thấp hơn mức tác dụng dược lý của thuốc thì mới có thể đăng ký là thực phẩm chức năng được. Khi quảng cáo phải có: "sản phẩm này không phải là thuốc, không có tác dụng thay thế thuốc chữa bệnh."

Thực ra: " Đây là thực phẩm chức năng, có tác dụng hay không thì chưa được cơ quan chuyên môn nào kiểm chứng" - đừng nhầm lẫn uống thuốc bổ với ăn thêm thực phẩm chức năng.

Cơ quan quản lý TPCN là cục vệ sinh an toàn thực phẩm. Họ quản lý tất cả những thứ ta đưa vào mồm: bánh phở, thịt bò, rau sống, rau cải, bánh kẹo, hoa quả sấy và cả TPCN. 

Một số thực phẩm chức năng có tác dụng thật sự. Nhưng không có thực phẩm chức năng nào có thể thay thế được thuốc. Cần tỉnh táo và cân nhắc khi lựa chọn; đặc biệt là những bạn không mạnh về kinh tế.

Việt Nam là một xứ sở nhiệt đới với vô số rau xanh, hoa quả nhiệt đới quý hiếm và nhiều tác dụng tốt. Đừng lãng phí những nguồn cung cấp dưỡng chất quý này. 

Thực tế: đu đủ, dưa hấu, chuối ở Singapore, Hàn Quốc, Châu Âu, Mỹ đắt hơn Kiwi, Táo Mỹ, Nho Úc.

Tương tự như vậy: rau xanh, các loại rau bên các siêu thị nước ngoài luôn có giá cao hơn rất nhiều so với thịt gà, thịt lợn.

Nước ngoài: nghèo ăn gà, ăn lợn. Giàu và tiềm lực mạnh mới ăn được rau xanh, hoa quả nhiệt đới. Ngược lại hoàn toàn ở xứ ta. Họ trân trọng thứ ta bỏ đi.??

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Problem-solving skills: are you learning the root or learning tops? New view

Problem-solving skills: are you learning the root or learning tops? New view

Retrieved from lessons 3.Problem-solving skills, New view from Awaken you wonderful we

Many people complain that they have a lot of work, backing home with many works. Flooding in work, study, and family, they do not have free time for themselves. They start learning problem-solving skills. Once applied, life seems easier and lighter than before. In fact, if looking back they are still busy or busier than before. What are the real solutions? What are the bottlenecks need removing?

Problem-solving skills are taught:

After hundreds of blah blah from the teachers, we realize the problems are outside. Problems from family is not ideally happy, sisters do not unite, conflicting all day, spoiled children; my spouse, my children, and my boss do not listen to me; the job is too hard, the price is too expensive, the price escalates, life is difficult due to political instability, politicians, government. Even worse, people blame for the million stars shined in the wrong ways from twenty to fifty years ago when they were born. We find endless sources for our problems from outside. Then we start solving rigidly with the 5WH technique, with a lot of efforts, resources put in to solve the problems. After a while, exhausted with the unsolved problems, or even problems getting bigger and bigger, we stuck into extreme stress. We are ineffective in solving problems. So what is the real problems?

This reminds me of cutting trees. The trees are like your problems; tree of problems in the family, in work and in society. We start to cut down the problem tree. A tree has three parts are roots, stem, and leaves. The ineffective ones carry the ax cut trees in the leaves, tops, and flowers. They can mobilize a lot of people into cutting down foliage, breaking down branches with hundreds of people, tens of years, billions of dollars. People take place hundreds of miscellaneous things around the problem tree with the hope of the tree will die. The tree is still there, although they mobilize a lot of wealth, resources and people. Many useless rewards and conferences have put forth. Useless rewards used for tiny and small achievement which are misunderstood that the milestone achievement.

The problem solved effectively when people cut the ax into the trunk or the root of the tree. One, two, three, four, and five minutes of cutting with about one hundred cuts, with only two people and the tree fall down.

“Oh you really do not need to do this fast, so quickly like that, this is where we get paid for; this is the source of our income. We are paid by time." Moreover, “you are less recognized, praised and less rewarded.”

With the metaphorical image above, the skills learned above are important but not critical; it is equivalent to using axes to cut the leaves of the problem tree; it is hard but ineffective but ineffective people get the most rewards. It can call the paradox for effective and ineffective people.

The decisive factor in solving the problem is not the problem but the individuals who solve the problem. When looking at correlations of solving the problem, let compare the magnitude of the individual and the magnitude of the problem. Moving a ten kilograms stone is a big deal for a small child or a dwarf, but moving a ten kilograms stone is a small problem for an adult or an athlete. Another example is the fifth-grade problem is difficult for students in grade fourth but is a simple problem for students in grades sixth or seventh. Is the problem of reducing difficulty? No problem is still the same, is the problem solver that has matured over time. In the field of life, there are such problems as fatherhood, motherhood, husbandry, self-management, financial management, and spiritual management. Do you say that you are good at solving these problems? If yes, I do not believe much, look at the emotions, the mood of those around you relating to the problem. When I self-arrogate, I often remind myself “Vietnam is a developing country or actually poor country, I am an average member in the country, in society and in the industry; I live in an average apartment in Vietnam, having an average living, which means I have poor thinking in some extent. So please do not be angrily and aggressively defends my point of views - the view of poverty. Do not force others to follow my expectation”.

"I am wrong, not only with wrong actions. The deepening roots of misery are my wrong thoughts; from wrong thoughts creates wrong assumptions; from wrong, assumption creates wrong expectation; from unsatisfied wrong expectation creates wrong emotion; from wrong, emotion creates wrong actions; from wrong actions create misery and stress in life. Wrong things compound with wrong things unconsciously. So the most effective way is I need to learn more to remove my ignorance". This is my best reminder help me from the action at the tempting moment.

Mastering or cutting off the root of the problem here is to enhance the individual's capacity or individuality. Make them bigger than the problems. Instead of complaining that there are too many things, too many problems need to solve; let identifying your small, your foolishness or your ignorance, which real things need to adjust. You need to do more, practice more, challenge more, accumulate more skills, gain more wisdom and achieve the enlightenment. According to many authors, identifying the right sources of the problem has helped solve fifty percent of the problem.

From the authors’ teaching, we can find out how to cultivate the best in process of personal development. Here are some of the ways I collected:

First, Jim Rohn and Brian Tracy recommend have a learning library, lifelong learning, goal - setting, and university on the wheel.

Jim Rohn recommended a library of books, notebooks, and photos, to read, to think and to recite at least 30 minutes a day, several hours a week, one weekend at the end of the month and 2-3 weekend days of the end of the year. Work hard in creating a library, creating a diary. You will not remember the content of the lecture or interesting conference last week, last month or last year. Trust me, if you listened to an interesting lecture a year ago, you will not be able to remember ten percent of that message if you did not record or review in previous time. Please try! Do not trust your memory. Setting goals, when achieving goals, the goals are not important anymore but the person you become when achieving your goals.

Brian Tracy recommends spending at least 30 minutes a day to read the knowledge related to the skill you want to improve. Try to read a lot, one month read at least from one to three books. After one year, you have a large amount of knowledge. He used the number of reading books to illustrate, to get the doctorate, learners have to read and study approximately fifty-five books. If you read and apply fifty-five books in the skill you want to improve, you are already a self-studied doctor. Interestingly, what you are self-motivated is much more effective than the motivation from the pressure from the environment. Learning because of wanting of desiring with the enthusiasm of passion, self-discipline is far more effective than the formal learning; because these are the vital ingredients creating great achievement.

In addition, Brian Tracy also mentions "university on the wheel", meaning that every day we move at least 2-3 hours, if in the car that we listen to audiobook, interesting ideas from books, conferences or teachings. One month we have approximately ninety hours of studying, after a year we have about one thousand hours of studying, which are equivalent to the number of credits in a year of studying in college. University on wheels, after nearly of ten years listening, people can have ten thousand hours of learning, they become outliers. Read the "outliers" of Malcolm Gladwell to understand the concept of ten thousand hours.

Secondly, sources are western philosophy, oriental philosophy and street philosophy. Streets, crowds, life, nature is the place to practice, to contemplate and to apply what we learn and read. Life needs contemplation, testing, and adjustment. Always pay close attention to the PDCA in everything: planning, doing, checking and adjusting. Skillful in apply the lessons from Buddha, Jesus Christ, Mother Teresa, Confucius, Lao Tzu, Socrates, Plato and many other great men, who create the foundations of modern philosophy. Their teaching contains empathy, love, persistence, generosity, serving heart, dedication, simplicity, self - discipline, principle, virtues, compassion, humility; which are enduring values.

Thirdly, we can gain wisdom and enlightenment by practicing meditation. In a lot of teaching of Buddha; and the follower of Buddha are Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, and Matthieu Ricard, people can easily practice and take the most advantage from meditation. People can create joy, happiness, and peace of mind from meditation. And the scientists, the researcher can control the focus of the mind, have a better view of themselves so that they will not fall into the trap of thinking.

Fourthly, Seth Godin, John C Maxwell, Daniel Goleman, Stephen Covey, Tony Robbin, Albert Einstein, Thich Nhat Hanh and many other extraordinary authors. They mention EQ: emotional intelligence, PQ: passion intelligence, AQ: adapting intelligence and SQ: spiritual intelligence. These are the abilities to master one's emotions, to master the self; the ability to lead others, the ability to interact with people, environment to create the wanted changes. The individuals mastered AQ, EQ, PQ, SQ is the leaders in society. In addition, they also recommend that children and adults should remain the precious characters: endless curiosity; creativity, skillfully in asking the question; nourishing the imagination and keeping the spirit of the young child inside. These are the channels to keep the energy run smoothly between individuals and environment. Use these channels people can stimulate the ideas directly to the unconscious mind, create happy emotion long before the conscious mind know what is happening. The smoother the energy, the better the body, family, and organization are. Parents can nourish these qualities in their children much more effective than the schools do. These qualities can be safe for the rigid of modern education. Pay attention to lead, learn and act so that you and others around you have these qualities of endless curiosity; creativity, skillfully in asking the question; nourishing the imagination, keeping the spirit of the young child inside, and the intelligence of AQ, PQ, SQ, EQ.
Citation:
Van D. Dao. Awaken You Wonderful We. Amazon.com 2017.

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Hanoi, 18/11/2016.